Moving ON

Life can strike you hard.  It can hit like thunder. Possibly, it is the failure of your job or sudden unbelievable news. .  Maybe it is a series of unfortunate events. Maybe it’s your world turned upside down and maybe it is the loss of a loved one.Whatever it is, moving is never easy.

In fact, to move on is one of the toughest things in the world,   If you’ve ever been brokenhearted, you appreciate what I mean. Get over it!  People might tell you this.  They might exclaim, just forget the past and move forward with your life.  You might even desire to.  Then you might realize yourself stuck. Or you might discover yourself numb. Or you might notice yourself wallowing.This is where world’s best words come in to play.

My token  to you is this deep of quote for moving on. HOPE you like it Word-pressers:Image

Final Thoughts

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Now, as I look back, it has honestly been a long, long curing process. Today, I am ultimately at calm for myself. I no longer pound myself up or consider myself as not upright enough when it comes to relationship and LOVE. I do not have the same confusion, trepidation, hatred or frustration, bittersweet emotions when I speak/think about F. I am grateful for having crossed trails with F and reaping this experience. I deem all of us go through each other’s lives for an intention this encounter has turned me befall a better person. I am glad for him and what he has achieve  for himself, and I hope he is as grateful  in his life as I am now.

How Do I Know When I’m In Love?

ImageAs humans, we’re ruled by our emotions. 

We more commonly react out of anger, pride, hatred or some other emotion, than act out of common sense or good planning. We buy pets, clothes and even houses because of how they make us feel. We choose our friends and our enemies with our hearts, not with our brains. We shop around for the religion that ‘feels’ right for us.

The Bible teaches that true love is not an emotion, but a decision. For example, we’re called not just to love those who love us, but even those who hate us, which requires self sacrifice and governing our emotions. 

So how can we know when we’re really in love – according to God’s standard?

Although love will make us ‘feel’ a certain way – usually tingly and excited – we must also stop and think. After the first feelings of our love fade, after a month or a year or even a decade, we must have something more solid to depend on, or else our marriage will disintegrate. A marriage based only on emotional love, without the foundations of God, sacrifice and common sense, won’t last. 

When determining whether we’re truly in love, we must ask:

1. Firstly, is the other person a Christian? While of course it’s possible for a Christian to fall in love with a non-Christian, we should be very wary of doing so as God commands that we don’t marry a non-believer. If we do fall in love with a non-Christian, we must either commit to praying and seeking their salvation before we marry them, or else end the relationship.

2. If the other person is a Christian and there’s definite attraction between us, we must assess whether we’re willing to put them and their needs above everyone and everything else (after God). Love requires us to sacrifice our own needs and inclinations for theirs on a daily basis.

3. Next, we need to assess whether we’re committed to investing our time and energy into the relationship. If we’re not, then we’re probably not really in love.

4. Finally, we need to ask ourselves if the other person is someone who we genuinely want to marry. Does the thought of spending the rest of our lives with him or her excite us? If we don’t foresee that the relationship will end in marriage, then there’s little point in continuing in it.

How can we know when we’re truly in love? If we:

• Feel like we’re in love

• Are prepared to sacrifice our own needs for the other person

• Are prepared to invest into the relationship

• Genuinely want to marry the other person

… then it’s likely that we’re in love according to God’s standard. 

 

Fears are stories we tell ourselves

“Fears are educated into us, and can, if we wish, be educated out.”
Karl Augustus Menninger

“The enemy is fear. We think it is hate; but, it is fear.”
Mahatma Gandhi

What is holding you back?

Whatever you answer, it will in many cases boil down to fear in some form.

Now, fear can be useful to keep yourself alive. But many times, especially if you live a life where you have the possibility to reading these words, fear is just a big obstacle in your path.

But what can you do about fear? How can you overcome it?

In this article I’d like to explore a few of the timeless things that people have learned about that throughout the last few thousands of years.

1. Face your fear to become stronger.

“I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.”

Frank Herbert

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
Eleanor Roosevelt

Every time you face a fear you gain the 3 important qualities that Eleanor Roosevelt mentions above. And the next thing that comes along will be easier to handle.

And if you have to handle a big fear, whatever it may be, and later realise you actually survived it, many things in life you may have feared previously seems to shrink. Those fears become smaller. They might even disappear.

You might think to yourself that what you thought was a fear before wasn’t that much to be afraid of at all. Everything is relative. And every triumph, problem, fear and experience becomes bigger or smaller depending to what you compare it to.

But to gain a wider perspective of human experience and grow you really have to step up and face your fear.

2. Facing your fear can be surprisingly anticlimactic.

“When a resolute young fellow steps up to the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

This is perhaps my favourite quote about fear. From a distance and in you mind things may seem very difficult and frightening. But when you actually step up and take action I think many of us have been surprised of how the beard of that bully just comes off. Why? Let’s move on to the next tip…

3. Take action and get busy.

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
Dale Carnegie

“Worry gives a small thing a big shadow.”
Swedish proverb

You can’t sit around think and waiting for courage and confidence to come knocking on the door. If you do, you may just experience the opposite effect. The more you think, the more fear you build within.

We often build scary monsters in our heads.

Maybe because of things we have learned from the news, the TV or the movies. Or we just think so much about something that our minds start to create totally unlikely horror scenarios of what may happen.

As you may have noticed in your own life, 80-90 percent of what we worry about never really comes into reality. Instead things can become anticlimactic when we take action. The beard of the bully comes off surprisingly easy if we just step up and take action.

And many times we get the courage we need after we have done what we feared. Not the other way around.

4. Fear is often based on unhelpful interpretation.

“Fear: False Evidence Appearing Real.”
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As humans we like to look for patterns. The problem is just that we often find negative and not so helpful patterns in our lives based on just one or two experiences. Or by misjudging situations. Or through some silly miscommunication.

When you get too identified with your thoughts you’ll believe anything they tell you. A more helpful practise may be to not take your thoughts too seriously. A lot of the time they and your memory are pretty inaccurate.

But this is a good thing too.

Because it opens you up to re-examining old beliefs you have based on experiences you may have interpreted in not the most helpful way. It opens you up to try again and see what happens this time instead of staying stuck in thought, inaction and fear.

5. Don’t cling to your illusion of safety.

“Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.
Helen Keller

“Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature…. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.
Helen Keller

Why do people sit on their hands? Is it just because they become paralyzed with fear? I’d say no. Another big reason why people don’t face their fears is because they think they are safe where they are right now. But the truth is what Keller says; safety is mostly a superstition. It is created in your mind to make you feel safe. But there is no safety out there really. It is all uncertain and unknown.

You may get laid off.
Someone may break up with you and leave.
Illness will probably strike.
Death will certainly strike in your surroundings and at some point come to visit you too.
Who knows what will happen?

This superstition of safety is not just something negative. It’s also created by your mind so you can function in life. No point in going all paranoid about what could happen a minute from now day in and day out. But there is also not that much point in clinging to an illusion of safety. So you need to find balance where you don’t obsessed by the uncertainty but also recognize that it is there and live accordingly.

As you stop clinging to your safety life also becomes a whole lot more exciting and interesting. You are no longer as confined by an illusion and realize that you set your limits for what you can do and to a large extent create your own freedom in the world. You are no longer building walls to keep yourself safe as those walls wouldn’t protect you anyway.

6. Be curious.

“Curiosity will conquer fear even more than bravery will.”
James Stephens

When you are stuck in fear you are closed up. You tend to create division in your world and mind. You create barriers between you and other things/people.

Curiosity on the other hand is filled with anticipation and enthusiasm. It opens you up. And when you are open and enthusiastic then you have more fun things to think about than focusing on your fear.

Curiousness also opens you up to gain understanding of something. And with understanding vague, fog-like fears disappears.

The emotions you experience are often as a result of what you focus your mind on. Change what you focus on about something and you can change your emotions about that thing.

How do you become more curious? One way is to remember how life has become more fun in the past thanks to your curiosity and to remember all the cool things it helped to discover and experience. And then to work at it. Curiosity is a habit. The more curious you are the more curious you become. And over time it becomes more of a natural part of you.

7. Remove separation. Remove fear.

“Who sees all beings in his own self, and his own self in all beings, loses all fear.”
Isa Upanishad, Hindu Scripture

The ego wants to divide your world. It wants to create barriers, separation and loves to play the comparison game. The game where people are different compare to you, the game where you are better than someone and worse than someone else. All of that creates fear. Doing the opposite removes fear.

That there is no real separation between beings, that we are one and the same, might sound a bit corny.

But one thought you may want to try for a day is that everyone you meet is your friend.

Another one is to see what parts of yourself you can see in someone you meet. And what parts of yourself you can see in him/her.

There is often an underlying frame of mind in interactions. Either it asks us how we are different to this person. Or how we are the same as this person. The first frame is based in how the ego likes to judge people and create separation to strengthen itself (either through feeling better or more like a victim). The second one creates warmth, an openness and curiosity within. There is no place to focus on fear or judgement anymore.

This is of course not easy, especially if you have held the first frame of mind for many years. But you can get insight into this by doing the rest of the things above. As you face your fears the barriers and separation you have built in your mind decreases. You come closer and feel more of a connection to other people.

With action, curiousness and understanding we come closer to each other. We gain a greater understanding of ourselves and others. And so it becomes easier to see them in you. And you in them.

She’s a totally freak and rocks at being one.

ImageLady Gaga‘s ‘You and I’ is probably one of the best songs on ‘Born This Way’ — as it is a loungy, lovelorn ballad with a whole mess of rowdy guitar riffs that just won’t quit. The song is informed by the bombastic theatrics of Queen, from the guitar solo that kicks in at about 3:20 to the handclaps that fill the first 30 seconds of the song to the layered vocals that hover near the four-minute mark.

The song could be construed as Gaga’s universal love letter to New York City and her upbringing (and her ultimate success) as much as it is to an unrequited lover when she says, “It’s been a long time since I came around / Been a long time / But I’m back in town / This time I’m not leaving without you.”

Clearly, the subject of the song (and the recipient of Gaga’s affections) has left an indelible impact on her, as she also coos, ‘There’s something about this place / There’s something about lonely nights / And my lipstick on your face’ and ‘There’s something about baby, you and I.’

Gaga also sings, “There’s only three men I’ma serve my whole life and it’s my daddy and Nebraska and Jesus Christ.” While Nebraska isn’t exactly a cultural hotbed or used to receiving shout outs in pop songs, Lady Gaga namechecks the state for whatever reason, leaving us a little curious.

The song cross-pollinates several genres, seamlessly mixing arena rock bluster with the kind of heartfelt emotion that spills out of a hole-in-the-wall, smoky dive or juke joint. Gaga dips her toes into both ends of the musical pool and the song is a vehicle that suits her voice. While many pop stars can’t really sing, Gaga actually can. No, she’s not a Mariah or Whitney, but her deep and husky voice is nowhere near as thin as some manufactured starlets who shall remain nameless! Gaga sings like she believes every note and in turn, we believe her too. There’s an uncontainable largeness to her delivery on ‘You and I.’

Overall, Gaga’s voice, guitar riffs and keyboards take center stage in the song, and in that order and ‘You and I’ is satisfying slice of Gaga-gone-rock-opera.

Her rhythmic cadence throughout out the song also ensures that when the lighters go up in the air at future Monster Ball concerts, the crowd will scream themselves hoarse by singing these words back to Gaga.

Whether you strip it down or dress it up, ‘You and I’ has got a melody that you cannot purge from your brain. At the most base level, it’s a beautiful, sonic love letter.

As my soul tries to breath.

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To have faith is to defy logic. It takes faith to think positively. It takes faith to believe that there is a loving G-d who cares deeply about our pain. To believe in life, the universe, or yourself after numerous failures is to have courage. Faith is an act of courage. It is choosing to get up in the morning and face our fears and believe that G-d will help us. Faith is choosing to believe that even though we may have failed one hundred times before that we can succeed the next time.

Here’s to the Past!

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Letting go of a relationship is one of the hardest things to do in life. No matter what the reasons of splitting up, art in letting go often is not easy to do. Regardless of the situation, it could be that one has its way, a boyfriend or girlfriend, spouse, first love or unrequited love. Letting go of what’s over is usually a very difficult thing to in act and the pain can often continue for years if a person merely won’t break the hold.

Moving on from the hysterical anguish and pain is no easy task.  Once love if found, as we would expect love will last forever. Yes! It’s great when it does but when it doesn’t, the pain and hurt can be demoralizing. What’s more even demoralizing is the suffering and the anguish the person live through from not moving on of what’s vanishing.

Forgetting is not like turning off the light, absolutely another different story for there have been no plug to unplug therein. When a relationship finally ends, it does not mean that feelings move away and flown by the wind. Being alone with the sentiments of loneliness, emptiness, grief, anger, despair and rejection can corroborate to be devastating. To that, external forces controlled the anguished heart thus trigger to contact other people, create up reasons to be where on earth the person is,  calling them continually, etc… Any kind to keep in touch with other person or have some attachment and hold with them. Even as its natural thing, we want to do, but this just prevents us from being cured in the relationship.

For us to let go and live again, we have to close the past even if it hurts so much. It is impossible to bring back the past. For doing, this will just closed your door to look forward on what’s ahead in the future.  What had happened is over, and please don’t we presume for some amount of waiting, wishing and wanting for regret will not undo the whole thing nor changed whats’ already been written.

to be continued :

News Scopes

 

Anthekitera MechanisImagem was the first analogue computer used during the years of scientific exploration; to be concrete it was used for astronomical observation. The device looks so simple and less complicated than the computer sets that we have today. I doubt if Panda either Penguin exist then, for it is obvious that there’s no internet connection before. And to compare today’s transitions it is really far and absolutely unbelievable how human brain reach the epitome of its innovation.

Man’s built in Gigabytes in his head has able to forecast new ways regarding the use of computers today,  during the primitive years is was solely used for  scientific exploration but now it is used in a more wide and complicated situations. Weird right? but I am talking about the business involved in the internet today. I know by far that everyone uses the internet for searches and other relative queries, and I know that you noticed the different result views on your particular search.

You seemingly get boom basted with the different websites giving you vast of information where you can choose. It’s not the fact that we hate reading all those queries but it’s the fact that there are contents that we’re made not merely to inform but to create back links. That is the mafia’s role in SEO providing unreasonable content, but thanks to penguin and panda for they have the latest tools to detect all this hazardous invaders in the World Wide Web.

Quality content writing   for SEO is the key, as quoted by the keyword researcher here in our office. I asked why for this seems oblivious in my part. Well, I have asked myself back these questions:  Does the content of my articles informative enough for the people to read it? How about the entertainment effects in its intro do it affects the readers or merely lead them to read a few lines and let it glide. That’s something disastrous if your articles are poorly made, it just simplify the kind of writing to have in mind.

To that, I have some points to reveal regarding SEO’s best weapon for search engines. I say it again that it is the quality content writing. I finally come to decipher the relevant of having quality content writing in all our web sites post, first this allow more readers to read every single part of the details and comprehend what’s really in that content your are writing. Secondly, I believe in Panda and Penguins strategy, for sure back links won’t do that much to rank your site if your content was purely low and per say shallow.

There have been some understandings, regarding on the ways in ranking your sites in the search engines. Then I say it once again that through interesting content you will have more clicks that will eventually lead you to higher rankings.

Again, let me end by saying the world will changed so better have the best quality on your writings.